How to Find New Places to Meet People Based on Your Personality Type

When you’re waiting for love to find you, sometimes life can seem dull and repetitive.

You go to work or school and come home. Occasionally, you go out with friends, but most of the time, you already know everyone in your social group.

It all starts feeling a little too insular, right?

Find new places to meet people, or just find a few new haunts to make your evenings exciting. Who knows, a new routine might do more than just help you find romance. It might also help you finish that novel, find a new hobby, or even rediscover long-forgotten talents!

But we’re all different. We all have different strengths, weaknesses, and comfort levels. The Myers-Briggs personality tests can help you get to know yourself better and find your space in the world.

Each personality type is going to be attracted to a different environment. As an INFJ, I spent most of my single evenings at an old-fashioned coffee house. They had wood floors, tables just big enough for coffee, a few books, and a journal, and the most interesting customers to watch as I read.

I didn’t meet my husband there, but I met a few amazing people who made me think, and my evenings were more beautiful than they might otherwise have been. So, if you know your Myers-Briggs type—let’s figure the ideal place for you to get out into!

Extroverts and Introverts.

If you’re one of the extroverted types, like the ENFP or ESTJ, it’s likely you’re already seeking out opportunities to socialize. But you may be going out to the same places with the same crowd every night.

If you’re just hanging out on social media or hitting the same few bars, then you’re missing out. Take advantage of your outgoing nature.

Set up a coffee date with someone you’ve been talking to online. Take a train ride to visit faraway friends and try talking to your neighbors on the train. Take ballroom dancing lessons and enjoy meeting a world of new people.

Introverts often have a harder time getting out of the house. But the world is full of options for us as well. The easiest one is just to take your book to the nearest coffee shop and settle in for a long afternoon.

Cafes, bookstores, and music stores have been introvert gathering spaces for decades, so give them a try. But don’t neglect other options as well. Go to the museum, take a hike, or even take a knitting class. The low-key socialization of self-directed classes is great for introverted INFPs and INTPs.

Sensors and Intuits.

Extroverts and Introverts are part of our common lexicon, but sensors and intuits are a little less commonly understood. Sensors process new information primarily through their senses, while intuitives process that information in more abstract ways.

If you’re a sensor, you probably like immersing yourself in the moment. You’re very aware of and connected to the world around you. ESTPs and ESFJs jump into a sports league and start playing. Introverted sensors like ISFPs might prefer sports like golf, weightlifting, or tennis rather than big team sports.

Movies, concerts, and wine tastings are great options, whether you’re going alone or with friends. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and enjoy new experiences.

Intuitives, get creative in public places! Bring your sketchbook to the local museum and start daydreaming. ENSPs, invite a friend to meet you somewhere for a card game. In good weather, INFPs or INTPs relax in the park and read, play music, or just lay back and enjoy the day.

Extroverted intuitives like ENFPs and ENFJs often love community theatre or chorale groups. Both offer community, exciting commitment, and creative challenges.

Thinking and Feeling.

Thinkers and feelers make decisions in different ways. Thinkers tend to approach their decision-making logically. They like to examine facts and evaluate the options. Feelers are more likely to "feel their way” through a decision. They’re more influenced by the tastes and feelings of everyone involved in the decision.

Thinkers really enjoy solving problems and working through data. They’d enjoy helping a friend with a building project or even talking through some complicated relationship issues with a friend. Thinkers, like ENTPs can be great sounding boards for their friends when calm understanding and rationality are needed. Go out for beers with friends and share that good advice.

Thinkers love competition and challenge, so show off those critical thinking skills by participating in trivia or game nights.

Feelers, like ENFPs or ISFPs are also great listeners. Gathering with friends is so important to you, and your insights are also valuable. You can help your friends get a softer, subjective perspective to their issues.

You also love participating in low-key, non-competitive games. Check out painting bars or pottery workshops to explore your creativity.

Perceiving and Judging.

Perceiving and judging are the hardest aspects of the Myers-Briggs to type. If you’ve been exploring your personality, you may even be struggling to decide whether you’re a perceiver or a judger. It can be hard to decipher. In short, a perceiver approaches life in an open, flexible way, while judgers prefer more structure.

If you’re a perceiver, you may love spontaneity in your social life. Judgers would rather know what’s happening in advance. But not always. ISTPs are likely more uncomfortable with spontaneity than ENFJs, so trust your own self-awareness. You know yourself best!

Social Wisdom.

Personality types can tell you a lot about who you are and what inspires you. Getting to know yourself through personality typing can help you move confidently through the world. When you’re out at a venue you enjoy, you’re more likely to meet others who share your interests.

Remember, no matter how ‘eccentric’ or ‘boring’ your favorite activities may seem, there’s someone out there who’ll look over and say “I thought I was the only one!” So enjoy yourself.