One of the things I get asked the most is how to create the perfect CatholicMatch profile.
One that will not only catch peoples’ attention but, hopefully, result in a message or two. While there are a lot of helpful things to add to your profile, today I am going to focus on the things you should definitely leave out of your profile because these items are often easy to overlook.
Before you keep reading, I suggest you pull up your CatholicMatch profile right now and glance it over as you read along. Keep an eye out for any of these common mistakes…
Don’t be negative!
There is a time and place for negativity but it is never on your CatholicMatch profile! Nobody wants to read through a “woe is me” story, and there is nothing attractive about someone who sounds like they hate the world or lead a miserable life.
Read carefully through your profile and make a note of the tone and the words you use. While you may feel frustrated by dating, don’t put that on your profile. You’ll scare away potential dates by your bad attitude. You might be surprised by how a few word changes can make your profile more uplifting and happy!
Take some nice photos.
You’ve heard it a million times but that’s because it matters so much! Photos are worth more than a thousand words in the online dating world. If your profile is made up of mostly dark, unflattering, or old photos, please remove them and add some new ones!
These days anyone and everyone can take some great photos with the help of their smartphone. So, stop putting it off and just do it! Get a friend or family member to snap some photos of you outside, at your favorite restaurant, at an upcoming party, after Mass, wherever you feel comfortable and happy!
Also, don’t be afraid to crop group photos to highlight yourself. Try to avoid photos with your friends or siblings of the opposite sex because it can confuse your future dates. Don’t be afraid to put the focus on yourself! If you already have some great photos on your profile, be sure to update them on a regular basis so they stay fresh!
Complete all the details.
Don’t leave any extra space or unanswered questions on your profile. The more people know about you, the more chances you give them to like you! Set aside some time to truly perfect your profile and include thoughtful responses to all of the prompts and questions.
Also, be sure to update your profile on a regular basis. Just like with the photos, you want your profile to be as up to date as possible. Did you just complete a new novena or an interesting book? Maybe you have a new hobby or favorite movie? Have you moved or changed your career? Whatever life changes you have...be sure to include them!
Leave the past in the past!
No new date enjoys hearing about your failed past relationships. So, if there is any details about your past dating history, remove it from your profile asap! Of course, after you get to know somebody it will be important to have conversations about your previous dates. However, your profile is not the place to share that information.
Be sure to leave out any mention of past boyfriends or girlfriends and definitely any photos that include them! Instead, focus on talking about your future and what you hope to accomplish. By talking about your future plans, you will show potential dates that you are eager for a relationship with someone new!
Just be honest.
Don’t write something because you think it is something that a potential date will WANT to hear. That does you no favors! If it isn’t true, don’t say it! Often, users will try to create a profile that will appeal to a lot of people instead of highlighting their true selves. This will always end in a disaster. Be honest on your profile about what you like, what you want, and what your life looks like. This will allow people who are attracted to you to find you, and keep you from trying to be somebody that you aren’t. When it doubt, just tell the truth!
Grammar matters.
Once you’re finished editing your profile, be sure to proofread it very carefully. Or better yet, have someone look it over for you! Just as you wouldn’t turn in a job application with typos, you don’t want any errors on your profile. A polished and well-written profile shows how invested you are in finding a relationship. A profile riddled with typos and grammatical errors will look messy and thoughtless—which is never attractive!
Remember, your CatholicMatch profile is a small snapshot of your life! Have fun and be creative with it!
If you are a Premium user, we offer complimentary profile reviews! Reach out to Support and request a profile review if you have any questions about what to add (or remove from) your profile.
