Write an Eye Catching Profile Online

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Writing an eye catching profile could be the English assignment of your life.

Your potential dates are sorting through lots of profiles. Their eyes are glazing over. You've got stiff competition. How do you make your profile stand out?

Okay, post lots of pictures. I grant you, pictures grab somebody's attention like nothing else. But at some point, people are going to need to know what sort of person you are. For that, you have got to talk to them.

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Writing a great profile is your big chance to let your personality shine through.

I looked through some CatholicMatch success stories to see what worked for other people.

My favorite was by a guy named Chug. There is a lot to learn from this sixty year old subscriber who wrote on core topics like Mass and the rosary but also on the funny stuff of everyday life.

Like this—

When my partner does the laundry and throws my things in "to be helpful", I

A. Give him "the look." And plot my revenge....

B. Thank him for including bleach "to make sure everything is really clean." And tell him to *never* wash my clothes again. After giving him "the look"

C. Secretly laugh at his pink underwear

D. Patiently explain that, No, I'm not gaining weight, YOU SHRUNK MY CLOTHES!

E. Tell him to stay away from laundering *any* of my clothes unless he wants us to live in separate states

Chug spent time getting his profile right. He didn't take shortcuts like writing "I love a good sense of humor." He said funny things!

"I love a good sense of humor" is as boring as dry toast. Slather some marmalade on top. Say something funny and you've got your reader smiling—at you!

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Then there's Alisha, who attracted her husband by writing warmly about the people and things she loved—her big family, homeschooling, and the saints she had a personal devotion to.

Why did that stand out? I mean this is pretty standard stuff that you could find on a lot of people's lists.

What came through was her passion.

Alisha didn't just list what she was into. She talked about why she was into it and what it meant to her. Her passion proved to be contagious and her future husband wanted to know more.

What is your passion? Is it where you live? Is it your church? Is it how you spend your free time? Don't just list the things you are into, think about what you find fabulous about them and talk about that.

Talk about the things you love to do and why you love to do them.

The most natural place to start describing yourself will probably be your job. But let's refine that. Instead of just listing the job or activity, think: why did you pick it? Why you do what you do? Why this job? Why this career? Why this company?

To get your personality to come through, sit down in a non-distracting environment (I often write in my car) and allow yourself to write freely. Throw it all down at once. Quick and dirty. If you have trouble getting started—which most of us do—let me recommend my favorite tool, a mind map, though mine are never as tidy as this one.

If that doesn't help you, try writing your profile as a letter. Writing a letter is a great way to write in your true voice. Write to a person you are comfortable with or write to your future spouse. You don't have to think about word limit or rules or your ninth grade English teacher, old Mrs. Treatise. Just write from your heart.

When you've said all you have to say, put it aside for a few days.

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When you go back to it you will have a fresh eye and be able to see what works about it and what doesn't. You can fix little mistakes that you missed on the first go round. You can get rid of anything that seems negative or unclear or unrelated.

Then get a friend to read it and give their input. What makes sense to you might not translate well to a reader.

I know you want to get the profile done fast and out into cyber space where people can view it. But it is way more important to get it right than to get it done fast.

Read success stories, post pretty pictures, turn on the charm, write your passion, and take the time needed to present an A+ version of yourself.

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