I'm Ready to Give Up Online Dating!

Do you remember when you first created your online dating profile? You were so excited to get out there and see who was available. You put so much effort into saying just the right things in your profile and picking your most flattering photos to include in your profile. You set your search preferences just right and viewed profile after profile, contacting anyone who piqued your interest. You went on a few dates, but ultimately, you didn't meet "the one."

Then, things started to slow down. You've viewed everyone there is to view. Suddenly not as many people are viewing your profile. Your messages aren't being answered as quickly. It just isn't worth the effort anymore. You're burnt out.

How can you keep your eye on the prize and avoid online dating burnout?

1. Keep your profile up to date.

Switching out your profile photo is the easiest way to instantly boost your activity on the site. People who didn't initially click on your profile are likely to have a change of heart when they see your new photo. It's a good idea to test out a few different photos to see which ones get you the most attention.

We've found that natural, color photos where one is smiling tend to do the most justice in comparison to more straight-faced or professional photos. Also, make sure to update your profile as your interests change. What was important to you when you first created your profile may not be most important to you now.

2. Go on a date with someone you wouldn't normally consider.

It's easy to get caught up in having a specific "type" when it comes to dating. If you've traditionally stuck with the same type of person and you're still not married, maybe it's time to go on a date with someone different. That preconceived notion of "having a type" may be all that's holding you back.

3. Take things with a grain of salt.

Not everyone who contacts you is going to be Mr. or Miss Right. You might have some *ahem* "memorable dates" that leave you wondering why you're still trying or if you'll ever meet your spouse. Remember, each time you eliminate someone who isn't right for you, you're one step closer to meeting "the one." Plus, you'll have some interesting stories to share with your friends later on.

4. Experience new things.

Instead of the typical dinner date, find something that you really want to do and invite a date along. This can be something like visiting a new coffee shop that opened up or a new exhibit at the museum. This way, if it turns out that your date isn't "the one," you still got to experience something new and it doesn't feel like a waste of time.

5. Remember that he or she is out there.

Even though it may seem bleak now, remember that God created someone special for each of us. Continue to prepare yourself for your spouse and leave as many doors open for God to introduce your spouse to you and it'll happen in His time.

Dating—online or offline—takes effort, but if you stick with it and keep your eye on the prize, you'll find your spouse.