5 Reasons Men Aren't Clicking On Your Profile 

We’ve all been there...

You see someone that you think is super interesting, good-looking, funny, and you are really hoping to catch their eye, and then nothing happens.

But why? They seemed amazing and you thought you might be what they were looking for, too.

I can’t speak for the women, but I have found some common themes in conversations with both my single and married guy friends. You might be surprised to hear that appearance rarely influenced their decision. It was a factor of course, but a woman’s looks weren’t what kept or scared them off. Women reaching out first is also a rarely considered factor.

A few topics came up again and again in my conversations. So, here are five reasons a man might pass over your online dating profile.

(In my opinion, many of these could also apply to men, as well.)

Church teaching

One of the first things that may turn away men from your profile on Catholic Match would be any sign of you rejecting Church teaching. That’s the reason to use Catholic Match over other sites, right? We are here looking for a Catholic spouse. If you don't believe all the truths held by the Church, that’s going to make it harder for a good Catholic man to be interested. Maybe you left one unchecked due to a specific circumstance. If you explain it and why you still stand by Catholic doctrine, that may help guys to better understand your situation. If you do fully agree with the Church teachings but are not receiving messages from other faithful Catholics, take a look to make sure you didn’t leave one unchecked by accident! 

English Class was dumb...or was it? 

Another common theme was how the profile was written. It doesn’t necessarily need to read like a witty article, but men notice when a profile is poorly written. Make sure you have a lot of content on your profile, and you use proper grammar. If English is not your first language and you are worried you might make mistakes, just explain your situation. Remember, we only have a small space and opportunity to make an impression. Why not take full advantage and make sure you didn’t miss any obvious errors? 

St. Joseph, where are you? 

Another consideration is how you describe the kind of guy you are looking for. Men can feel inadequate when reading what a woman wants in a man. Certainly, we should all desire someone who is virtuous, prayerful, and sacrificial. However, it is also important to be realistic and remember that no one is perfect. Some men will feel unworthy and unable to meet your ideal standards. They might move on from your profile out of fear of rejection. Consider writing a less specific description and being open to men of different backgrounds.

The Scrapbook 

Pictures are crucial for online dating profiles; they are your first impression. You aren't able to show your charisma, humor, or personality without pictures. With that in mind, choose your photos wisely! The content of the photos catches the eye more than your appearance. Avoid including pictures where you are frowning or using a lot of filters. A bright smile or laugh almost always gets a click! Be sure to demonstrate your maturity and readiness to commit. On the other hand, a picture of you enjoying a hobby has a much better chance of sparking the interest of a serious man! 

Don’t overcomplicate it!

Writing an online dating profile has to be one of the most agonizing things we go through as we start the process. Keep it simple. Be you, be clear, be realistic about your standards, and leave the rest to God! I hope these thoughts from real men help you to avoid some of the mistakes others have made!