Men and Women Are More Alike Than You Think

From the very beginning, we’re taught that boys and girls are different.

Even before our first day of junior high, we know that it’s not just our physical make up that separates us. We think differently. We feel differently. And ultimately, we live differently by virtue of the X or Y chromosomes in our body. 

And I agree. Sort of.

The more time I spend with the guy friends in my life, including my boyfriend, the more I’ve come to believe that perhaps our differences are really just varying perspectives. At our core, we have the same wants and needs, and most importantly, the same Creator. God did, in fact, create Eve from Adam’s rib.

You may think that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but we may be more alike than you think.

We both enjoy the company of others.

If you sit back and observe the singles scene at any bar or restaurant, you will see both men and women assessing those around them, likely in a group. We use our friends for moral support, and if you think that women are the only ones who travel in groups, think again.

We’re both scared when it comes to dating.

No matter what your social, financial, or relationship status, both genders struggle to maintain confidence in the dating scene. We may show this differently, either internally or externally, but deep down, we’re all a little insecure about putting ourselves out there and getting hurt.

We both dream about the future.

Stereotypically, we assume that women are the ones mentally planning a future wedding and dreaming of babies and a white picket fence, but men have this on their mind too. It may take a few more years for some men to catch up to this way of thinking, but ask a man where he would like to be in 5 to 10 years, and he will likely mention marriage and family life.

We both desire companionship.

Whether it’s on the basketball court or with a cup of coffee, men and women live life in search of companionship. We both know that a life shared with another, whether it’s through friendship or a romantic relationship, is a much richer life. We may foster them differently, but we care about relationships.

We both want happiness.

Ultimately, when you peel back the stress of life, the worries, the demands and the struggles, we both want to be happy. Our paths to happiness may vary, but we want to be content on an emotional and spiritual level. Whether we’re called to singlehood, marriage, or religious life, we innately pursue the people and activities that bring us inner joy and peace.

God created us each uniquely, and He has given men and women specific gifts needed to build strong relationships and faithful families. But He also created all of us to be His children, and we are forever bound together by that same call.