Why the Holiday Season Is the Perfect Time to Act On Your Feelings

Is the holiday season really the time to tell people how you feel?

This is a question that goes through a lot of peoples’ minds. 

Maybe you’re about to go on a long winter break and have spent the past semester gaining the courage to be truthful and now is your time if you’re gonna take it. 

Maybe the holidays have made you feel more connected with others spending time with those you love, and so you want to extend that same affection to the person who's been on your heart lately. 

Maybe the holidays are a time to be honest with people about how you feel, and you want to jump in on that.

Whatever the situation is… let this be your sign that yes, you should tell that person how you feel.

Blame in on the holidays or on the timing, but go tell them that you are interested in pursuing their heart. Go tell them that you want to go on a date with them, or another date with them, or you want to enter into a serious relationship with them.

Now is the time. Not only because of the holidays but because you deserve better than procrastination, and that includes your own procrastination. You deserve someone who is courageous, honest, and intentional with their pursuit of your heart, and those actions begin from your own choices in pursuing the relationship. 

I know that it can be intimidating, but I can tell you from experience that waiting longer to be honest and vulnerable with someone will not get easier with the passed time. 

And I know that it could risk disturbing the current status quo that you have with this person, but I would like to declare right now that it ought to be disturbed, one way or the other.

If you are in an in-between phase, where you don’t know what is going on in the relationship, rock the boat. Make the jump so that you can know whether it is something that will serve you both well in your pursuit of your vocations, or something that you shouldn’t waste your precious time on any longer. 

You deserve clarity. And intentionality.

You deserve knowing that someone likes you over wondering if they do or not. These are standards you are in the right to uphold for yourself! They are also standards you should extend to the other person as part of upholding them for yourself.

So if you have been looking for a sign or a little push of whether or not to tell someone about how you truly feel: this is your sign, your little push. 

Go do it!

Be brave, and be intentional.

Know that the same clarity you are offering to the other person you are also offering to yourself. And know that no matter the outcome, whether those feelings are reciprocated or not, you are doing the right thing!

Take the spirit of the holiday season and run with it straight to honesty and intentionality and clarity. They are values of a relationship you will never, ever regret upholding. For it is always—always—so much better to be aware of the truth than ignorant to it.

Go do it. 

For yourself. 

For the other person.

For the pursuit of holiness and your vocation.

And for all people in the dating world: you deserve bravery and clarity and intentional pursuit, and upholding that standard begins with you.