What Should I Do If I Hear from Someone I'm Not Interested In?

Have you ever been messaged by someone online who makes you scratch your head?

Maybe they don't line up with you on anything? Or maybe you look at their profile and think that it would never work because they seem so bitter, they're way too young/old for you, etc.

What should you do?

Well, remember that when someone searches for other members on CatholicMatch, a list of everyone who meets their search criteria pops up. Next, the member who is searching will typically view each of the profiles that appear in their search results. So, if someone viewed your profile that does not mean that they thought you were a match. They simply clicked to see who you were. They might have decided you would not match with them well and then clicked away. Or maybe they weren't sure, and they would be open to talking to you, but are not confident enough to start talking.

So, if you receive a view from someone who doesn't meet your criteria...

This is very normal. This means that you met their search criteria, so they took the time to read over your profile to see if the two of you might make a good match. There is no need to do anything at this point. Just move on.

If you receive a message or a like from someone who doesn't meet your criteria...

You're never under the obligation to respond to those who don't interest you, but we do recommend sending a polite response to acknowledge that you received their message. Keep in mind that when you're contacted by someone who lives farther away than you'd like, there's a good chance that they frequent your area or may be planning a move to that area in the future.

If you receive a lot of messages from those who don't meet your preferences, check to make sure that you've clearly mentioned your requirements for a match in your Ideal Match section of your profile, including age and distance. When you do this, those who don't meet your preferences will see this and know to move on to the next profile because you would not view them as a good match.

Have more questions about online dating? Visit our FAQ center or shoot an email over to support@catholicmatch.com