Did you know that 92% of men wish that you would stop wearing a one-piece bathing suit? At least this is what the latest survey conducted by Glamour Magazine reported. More than a thousand men participated in the survey, and the conclusion was that women should not wear a one-piece bathing suit. But, why?
This most recent issue of Glamour focused on the body and how it looks. When I read this survey which stated that men desire to see women in bikinis, my initial thought was, “Of course they do. These men want to check women out and objectify them.” Women in bikinis used to be on the cover of Playboy Magazine, so this objectification has gone back decades. Less bathing suit = more skin. More skin = sexually appealing.
The questions is, are these men looking at women in the right way and for the right reasons? My initial thought was, no, of course not. This was confirmed by the other questions conducted in the survey. Question #1: When you see a woman in swimsuit, what do you think? The answer revealed that of the 1000 men who responded, three-quarters of them answered Sexy! Other answers included women looking good, half naked, and women needing to work on certain parts of her body (presumably to look sexier). The point here is that every answer was focused on sexy bodies. So, is it a wonder why men desire women to wear less on the beach?
If I was a women, would I want to be objectified like that? Would it make me self-conscious about my body, or parts of my body? Would I ever be seen for me? To me, this culture already pressures women to look perfect, and to me, this kind of survey only adds fuel to that fire.
Another question also confirmed the objectification: “What body part do you notice most when you see a woman in a swimsuit?” OK, first off, if I was conducting the survey, I would not ask something so shallow and narrowing. I would at least offer the option of not being shallow. I might have asked, “On the beach, do you notice a woman’s body or do you see the woman as a person, as a whole?” In any case, the answer to this question was: 36% noticed the breasts, 29% butt, 15% legs, 12% abs, 8% other—whatever that is. Why weren’t eyes, smile, face, or “body as a whole” in the running?
Another question confessed that more than half of men said that an “amazing body” is what makes a woman stand out on the beach. So, what are guys looking at?
It seems that nearly 1000 men have reduced women to their bodies and to the sex appeal in this survey (I apologize for this ladies), and apparently, this even happens when they are hitched. More than half of all men interviewed said that they absolutely “check out other women” even when they are with their significant other. More than a quarter more confessed that while they don’t fanaticize about the other women, they do check them out because “they can’t help it.” Only a mere 14% of men answered, “What women?” It’s one thing to notice a woman and her beauty, but it’s another thing to actively check them out, especially when you are married to someone else.
Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and others magazines like them are written by women for women, and yet, the vast majority of their articles shoot women in the foot due to their bad advice and impede them from finding true love. It saddens me that the majority of “advice” in these magazines is awful, as are the surveys and interviews. They give women false guidance on issues of life and love.
My own opinion is that more women should be offended by such surveys and such objectification. Women should never accept objectification as normal. And, no, not all men are like that. There are knights out there who cherish and respect the dignity of a woman.
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