When white smoke rises from the Sistine Chapel, the world watches in wonder. It’s a moment filled with awe, tradition, and the unmistakable presence of the Holy Spirit. The election of the first American pope is more than a milestone—it’s a reminder of how God continues to work through prayer, trust, and surrender.
For Catholic singles, it’s also a powerful invitation to reframe how we view our call to vocation.
Vocation Isn’t a Checklist
In dating, it’s tempting to treat discernment like a personal project: set goals, follow a plan, stay in control. But the Church doesn’t choose a pope based on credentials or charm. The cardinals pray, reflect, and ultimately, they let go of their own expectations to make space for the Holy Spirit.
Your future spouse isn’t found through flawless timing or perfect planning. Discernment, like the conclave, is less about efficiency and more about openness. Being open to try out new experiences, meet new people—even those you wouldn’t expect to date—is so important.
You must continue to make yourself available to God’s will, even when it unfolds slowly.
You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Be Called
The man chosen to be pope doesn’t begin his life knowing that’s his path. He grows, he fails, he learns. So do you. You don’t need to be perfect to be called to marriage—you just need to be willing.
God doesn’t wait for you to have it all together before calling you forward. Grace meets you where you are right now. So be ready to embrace new opportunities and take the plunge at any moment! Don’t miss your chance for something great because of preconceived notions or trepidation.
And likewise, your future spouse won’t be perfect, either. They’ll have their own wounds, doubts, and growing to do. But what matters is their openness to love well, grow in virtue, and walk beside you with faith.
Be Patient, and Take Heart
A holy relationship isn’t about quick sparks or fleeting feelings. Like the papacy, marriage is a lifelong mission that serves something greater than the individuals involved. It’s worth taking time to discern it well.
And remember: you’re not meant to discern alone. The Church surrounds each new pope with prayers, support, and encouragement. Let your community do the same for you. Invite others in—ask for guidance, share your hopes, and allow trusted voices to walk with you on the journey.
Because even in the silence, even in the waiting, the Holy Spirit is at work.
