Why Aren't I Receiving More Responses?

Solange-329233, a brunette from Rochester, N.Y., recently confessed that she’s  discouraged by the lack of responses to her emails and emotigrams. She asked her fellow CatholicMatch members for their thoughts on the situation. Here’s how they weighed in.

“Never give up hope! You never know what is coming around the corner.”  -Ginger-791603

“Hang in there. It is a numbers game.”  -Gerard-400247

“Keep sending them.....then one day you’ll see more responses than you could imagine! I still send out a lot more emotes than I get back. Some have never responded, even to a few emotes. I understand. Keep smiling and keep hope alive.”  -John-631631

“I would encourage you to post in the rest of the forums and join the chat room – people who participate in these are full, paid members of CatholicMatch and can return communication with you. There are many people who have profiles on CatholicMatch but do not pay for a membership and are not actively seeking a match. These people may never check their CM account. Also, I have found that often new members don’t really know how to use the site yet and are bit intimidated by all the facets of the site.

Keep sending out your line; we can't catch any fish if we don't have a line in the water. And while you are waiting for men to respond to your lovely emails and emotes, keep hanging out with us in the fora and maybe even attend an event or two. That’s the best part during the in-between time: making great friends among like minded people from all over our Church.”  -Dawn-58330

“Sometimes this online dating thing can be just like a real life barn dance – the men don’t want to drag themselves out on the dance floor, so the ladies get out there and hoot and holler and have a good time…until it is just a bunch of dudes leaning up against the barn wall. Then suddenly one nice fella tips his hat and dances with you.”  -Craig-388270

“Now that I participate in the forums when inspired to do so, I receive a lot more communication from guys ‘stopping by’ to read my profile. I tend to find the guys who do post to be more interesting to get to know better too. Matter of fact, I consider every post I make as an extension of my profile.”  -Elle-812598

“At first, like you, I didn’t post or enter chat rooms and became disappointed so I let my membership lapse. This time around I have been posting and entering the chat rooms and I am enjoying my interaction with other members. So keep posting and see what happens.”  -Mary-377702

“Over the years I’ve experienced much of the same thing. …I move on and try not to get too bent out of shape about it. After all, we cannot change others, nor can we make anyone respond to us. While you are moving on, maybe participate some more in the forums, which gets your face out here with the rest of us, and we also get a chance to read more about how think and feel on various topics.”  -MaryAlice-97161