The Attraction Factor: 6 Ways To Maximize Your Appeal

Doesn't the prospect of finding a spouse in a world of more than 7 billion people seem a little crazy sometimes? We wander around among crowds of strangers every day, hoping to find that one, unique person to love. This is why we go to great lengths to make sure we look good; great hairstyle, nice clothes, nice place to live, nice car... these things are all important if you're trying to attract the opposite sex. But beyond aesthetics, what else in this game do you have control of? You might be tempted to believe the rest is just a big gamble. Spin the wheel!

But there's more you can do to become attractive in the eyes of someone who, like you, is looking for a relationship. There are things about you that will cause others to want to be around you; qualities you already possess which, if cultivated well, will make all the difference for you on the dating scene. Do you know what those qualities are?

This is why I'm hoping you will join me and hundreds of others at the upcoming National Catholic Singles Conference, September 27th-29th in Philadelphia, PA. I'm excited to be addressing the attendees that Saturday morning and filling them in on what I call The Attraction Factor. I have six excellent points any single person can hone in on that will maximize their level of attractiveness in the eyes of other singles who are also looking for their mate. I would love to share these points with you and give you some great practical tools to help in your search, because being attractive is not limited to what people perceive you to be on the outside, attractiveness is an entire package.

This aspect of being human is not intended to be simply for selfish reasons. Being attractive inside and out is not just so you can boost your ego or feel you're better than others. Wanting to be as  attractive as you can be should primarily be about how it effects other people. In other words, it's about effective discipleship.

Just think about Jesus during His public life and imagine him in the crowded streets and on the shores of the sea of Galilee teaching the masses. Christ was attractive and people were drawn to Him, but not because of any material things He possessed. They were attracted to Him because He loved souls. He was a phenomenon in His day because He showed people a kind of love no one had seen another human being give. And this love was the umbrella for all the other incredibly attractive traits Jesus displayed. The people He encountered were attracted to Him and surrendered their lives to Him because of His love. We need to remain focused on the fact that our desire for marriage and family life is a gift and as disciples of Christ, our lives are examples for others to notice and discover a path to come closer to Jesus.

Christ should be our example in all things and following His example as you prepare yourself for marriage should be at the top of that list. The great thing about this is, He already endowed you with everything you need to be the most attractive person you can be. You have everything you need to attract your spouse, but if you're feeling frustrated and unsuccessful, chances are you haven't capitalized on what God's given you.

That's where coming to the conference and participating in not just my talk, but all the fantastic talks given by these wonderful Catholics who are champions in the faith can help change you and start giving you an edge immediately. Although I've never met Fr. Thomas Loya, Emily Stimpson, Daniel Mattson and Damen Owens, their reputations for being dynamic speakers and outstanding Catholics precede them. I am just as excited as everyone else to meet them and hear their specific expertise.

So join us, won't you? The dates are rapidly approaching so please, make your plans soon. I can't wait to meet you all and share something I believe will transform your dating experience into something wonderful. And who knows... you just might bump into the one who's been searching for you :)

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