Chances are that if you have been on a few dates you have had at least one that just didn’t go right or turned into an outright calamity! Maybe you are getting ready for your first ever date and you’ve heard horror stories from friends and family...and now you feel as if awkwardness is unavoidable.
Awkwardness or being uncomfortable on a date is bound to happen at some point, but don’t worry! It's actually all a part of the process and it doesn't need to be a big deal at all. Here are some ways to make the most of, and maybe even save, those awkward dates...
Humility and a Sense of Humor are Key
A humble heart and a laugh can go a long way when you find yourself in an awkward predicament. While it can be hard to pivot if things beyond our control happen, being humble and handling yourself or your date with grace can turn a potential disaster into a show of character. Maybe it was an in-person date where the restaurant reservations were lost. Maybe you spilled something on yourself or your date. Maybe one (or both) of you were too shy and the conversation was forced and dry.
Maybe it was an online video call that had technical difficulties, or your furry friend knocked over the camera. If you have the humility to not take yourself too seriously, and to not judge others too much, that laugh can turn the event into a story and maybe even a bonding experience later!
Save the Date
No, I don’t mean to start talking marriage!
I would argue that whether the person you are on a date with interests you in another date or not, you both deserve the courtesy of respecting each other’s time and efforts.This means paying attention and focusing on the other person. Listen to what they are saying, engage, and, who knows, what you learn may surprise you!
Other times this may mean you need to put on the hero cape to save the day. For instance, if the “awkward” part of the date is that the other person is shy and introverted, chances are they are dying inside as well, wishing they knew how to break the silence. Instead of getting frustrated or allowing silence to simmer, gently try to lead the conversation.
If you already have some idea of their passions and hobbies, sometimes just asking the right questions and listening can help the conversation flow.
Learn from the Experience
If things go awry, don’t let it get you down!
These moments, while frustrating or embarrassing, can help us to learn more about ourselves and how to improve. It may teach us that we need to be better conversationalists or that better planning may save some pain later. Overcoming any awkwardness can also give us more confidence for taking the next leap, whether that is a second date with the person, or moving on.
The more confident and flexible you are, the better your dating experience will be!
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