When Scott and Kim first connected on CatholicMatch, they were both navigating major life transitions.
Kim, 60, was settled on her quiet farm in Oklahoma, working as a CPA and enjoying life near her grown children and grandchildren.
Scott, 59, had recently lost his wife and was adjusting to life on his own as his daughter left for college.
Neither expected to meet someone who would so naturally fit into their everyday life.
But thanks to CatholicMatch, that’s exactly what happened!
"We just hit it off rather calmly early on,” Kim said. “We both definitely wanted to marry again in the Church.”
They messaged on CatholicMatch for nearly six months before finally exchanging numbers, then spent two more months on nightly phone calls, followed by another stretch of FaceTime all before meeting in person.
Their first meeting was memorable—not for a grand gesture, but for its realness.
A missed flight delayed Scott’s arrival in Dallas by nearly nine hours. Kim received him from the airport with flexibility and grace. The rocky travel day was an unexpected blessing, removing the pressure from their first meeting to be “perfect.” What was left was the quiet joy of recognition when they saw each other at the airport baggage claim.
“We just allowed the relationship to progress slowly, as it was meant to be,” she said. “And didn’t rush anything.”
During that first visit, they rode roller coasters together at Six Flags (she’s the thrill-seeker; he’s not), roasted s’mores over an open flame, and tried their hand at pickleball.
Monthly trips followed—first to meet family, then to build a shared sense of real-life compatibility. Finances were discussed openly, and they even created a written financial questionnaire to help them navigate combining their lives later in adulthood.
Kim’s previous marriage had ended in divorce and then an annulment.
The annulment process—something she had delayed for years due to fear of retribution from her ex-spouse—became a source of healing for her.
In July 2024, the couple traveled to New York City to visit her daughter and son-in-law, Scott’s first time meeting the last members of her family. They explored museums, saw Ben Platt in concert, and attended a few Broadway shows. One evening, in the quiet of her daughter’s apartment, Scott proposed with a silver link bracelet instead of a ring, having thoughtfully sought permission from their children first.
“It was simple and sweet, and I most definitely said yes.”
Now married, the couple lives together on the Oklahoma farm. They volunteer together in the community and are discerning how they will serve their parish as a team. They both bring past experiences as lectors, sacristans, and religious education teachers. They are dreaming of a pilgrimage to the Holy Land or to Lourdes and Fatima, and plan to save toward that goal.
While many view online dating with skepticism, Kim said she chose CatholicMatch because it felt safer and more mission-aligned than secular sites. “Without CatholicMatch and the wider net it cast, I knew I would never meet an eligible Catholic guy as they were so scarce by me.”
For Scott, success with Catholic dating services was no surprise — he had met his first wife through an old video Catholic dating service years ago. The couple reflects that their story is a testament to the power of dating with purpose and patience.
